Changing the Story

Administrative note: I switched some days around. I was going to have today, the last day of week one, be much more fun. But some of the stories we tell ourselves in exploring our authentic selves made me shuffle days a bit.

For those familiar with the work of Byron Katie, you know that one of the paradigms she talks about is your “story.” We all have a story of who we are, where we come from, and what we believe about ourselves.

As soon as I hear her ask about someone’s story, I hear Steve Martin in “The Jerk.” Did you see that movie? It was one of my favorites as a kid. His story, “I was born a small black child…” which of course, makes us all laugh because with Steve’s white hair, it’s hard to imagine him being born a small black child.

Are there things about your story that feel so very serious to you now? Perhaps they are just as ridiculous?

Over the past few days, we took a deeper look at ourselves. We looked at the things that we believe are awesome, we looked at how much we deserved love, and we looked at our authenticity… who are we really?

The goal of this exercise is not to define ourselves. It is to really look at it, and then decide we can transcend it and expand beyond it. Some of those stories we told ourselves about our inauthentic natures can be changed in an instant.

Mark’s work in NLP helps people to change the stories. The first time I met him, I saw him change someone so deeply that she began to physically appear different before us. It was very powerful.

Change in an instant. You can do it yourself. Of course, it’s helpful to have someone like Mark to help us dissect our beliefs, but you can also do it yourself.

The past does not define who you are now, unless you let it. You are who you are now, and the past, in actuality, does not exist. At least it does not exist the way we think it does.

There have been many mystical traditions that teach of the ever-present now. They tell us that the universe “pulses” and that reality is being created and re-created multiple times every second.

There is no time. No past. No future. There is always the ever-present now being created and re-created. The beginning of the universe is happening now. You are being born and reborn right now.

What about past lives? Happening simultaneously. What about future predictions? Happening in probable realities in another focus.

And you… sitting in the middle of this vortex of creation… you are the director of this experience. Those memories of being poor or deprived as a child are happening now. Those memories of being abandoned, that event is happening now.

Does the idea that the universe — and you — are being recreated multiple times every second sound too far fetched? If so, know this. Those memories do not define you, though you use them to define you. You are trying to escape something that no longer exists. You are using the past that is no longer relevant to hold you in a place of powerlessness.

You are who you are today. You are not that child, that young adult, that person who did whatever it is you think you did.

You are pure consciousness, and the past has already been forgiven.

Even if you don’t believe that the universe is recreating itself multiple times every second, you’re going to suspend your disbelief with us today and pretend that it is true. Just for kicks.

What a good Guilty Catholic Girl!

When I was in 6th grade, I started playing around with shoplifting. I would ride my bike to the local store and walk out with a candy bar without paying for it. I probably did this 5 times or so, and then our house was burglarized. Someone had broken in, stolen my mother’s jewelry, some heirloom silverware inherited from my grandmother, and other items. I was raised Catholic. I immediately believed that the reason my house was broken into was God punishing me for stealing from the store. I felt so guilty that I had brought this on my family, I never stole again. Ever.

In fact, I took the belief to an extreme. I believed that if I wanted anything at all, I had to work very hard to earn it. If a candy bar cost 25 cents (oh, my age!), then I really needed to have 50 cents to deserve it.

That memory is still fairly vivid in my mind. And I need to change it. The reason it is vivid to me is that it is still running within me. It is still happening now.

And because I am in the middle of the vortex of that creation, I can change it. And, I can change it however I want.

Today’s Exercise

That’s our exercise for today. Meditate and ask your higher self/source/God to present to you a memory of an event that frames your concepts about wealth. Think about something that happened to you many years ago, something that framed the way you think about wealth, abundance, and your life experience.

What is the story? How did it make you feel?

Today, we will use our powerful imaginative skills and create a completely different memory. Go back to that memory and change it. Completely.

For me, I would rather not feel guilty about stealing candy bars. So, guess what! I choose to change this.  I imagine myself thinking about stealing a candy bar back in Gardener’s Pharmacy in the late 1970s. I look at them and consider it. And then I pick one up. I feel the rush of adrenaline as I still consider stealing. And as I feel that anxiety, I walk to the counter and pay for it. I re-create the memory in my mind.

And my house was never broken into! I remember coming home from the event at school and finding the house secure and protected. In fact, if you went into my mother’s basement right now, you would find that silverware in a box with a big “Z” on it. And her jewelry is still in her jewelry box. It’s covered with dust because no one has looked for it in a long time, but it is there.

Now I know some people who talk about revisionist history in quite a negative way. When a politician does it publicly, knowing full well what the truth is, it is a very different thing. The intent of the revision is important. Are you manipulating others for control? Or are you intending to free yourself from beliefs and events that no longer serve you?

There is no harm in revising your past if your intent is to free yourself. Change the way you remember those past events so that you have the ability to transcend what happened.

Here’s something else… if the past is only a memory, could you create a memory from scratch? What would happen if you created a memory of picking the perfect stock, winning the lottery, or making a different decision in the past?

You have to believe it before you can see it, so it would have to be something believable. The power, however, is in your belief. Suspending disbelief, making reality more malleable in your imagination, and playing with those concepts has incredible power.

Reality isn’t quite so serious. Remember how Low Rider showed up to tell me to lighten up and enjoy the process! Have fun with your experience!

Have you ever just sat back, closed your eyes, and imagined a completely different life experience? Floated away with a friend to a faraway place? I bet you did when you were a kid. When was the last time you allowed your imagination free reign?

Do it now. Go back and change something. Free yourself and imagine it different. Go forward and imagine all of the possibilities.

Leverage Your Future

In this ever-present now, you also have a future self. (Actually you have many different probable selves.) The self you are striving to be… the one that is happy, joyous, and creating the life of your dreams exists in reality in the ever-present now. You can always ask your future self for help. Your future self has all of the knowledge of how he/she got there. Ask your future self to remember you, to help you, and to plant ideas, inspiration and all that you need to get to that perfect place.

Have fun with these exercises!

Be proud!

You’ve made it this far. You’ve completed a week of the not very light fare Wealth Diet. How are you feeling? Is this overwhelming, just right, too much, or not enough? Do you feel any shifts happening in your experience?

Some of the exercises we’ve done so far are exercises you can do over and over again. And we’ll come back to them, too.

Okay, tomorrow will be lighter, I promise. We’re going to play with reality a bit and flex that reality creating muscle some.

Authenticity

Authenticity. Being real. Being 100% truthful to yourself and others.

Are you doing this?

I have spent most of my life not doing this. I didn’t exactly have a picture perfect childhood. A lot of dysfunction helped me develop skills of camouflage, being able to be everything to everyone. That skill can be helpful, but when you betray your inner self to keep peace in your world, you end up manifesting experiences that are not really you.

You can have wealth without authenticity. I know some completely disingenuous people who have amassed a great deal of wealth through lies, deceit, and incongruent behavior. I’ve met a few people who say one thing and do another, acting like a miser while admonishing others to live with a giving heart.

Living a dual life is dangerous to the soul. It creates a fractured experience, protecting the lie. It is also completely unnecessary.

You can have great wealth and be true to who you really are. And I believe that the more congruent you are to your true self, the more meaningful and fun your experiences will be.

I didn’t go that route. Didn’t mean I was wrong, and I certainly didn’t lie or cheat. But I wasn’t fully authentic, either. And in this life, this one life we get to live as ourselves, we have been tasked to be the very best us we can be.

Finding My Authenticity

I was on the speech team in college, and majored in speech communication. I did debate in high school. Without speech and debate, I would have never been able to pay for school. I needed it, and I enjoyed the experience. Many of the people I met through speech and debate are my friends to this day.

After college, I had no idea what to do with my life. I felt very lost. I worked in businesses doing all sorts of things from accounting, marketing, setting up computer networks, and this internet thing came along. Oooh. I remember my first modem… a 14.4 blazingly slow beast to get me on AOL back in 1995. Those were the days!

I started to teach myself HTML then javascript, graphics and design, server management, hacking, networking… Eventually, I was working with some really smart techies in a basement in the Chicago suburbs. I had a business card that said “Internet Developer.” And I eventually got a job with the fastest growing internet agency in Chicago managing web sites for Fortune 100 companies as a project manager. I was working 80 hour weeks and losing my mind from the stress.

But I was “successful” by my familial standards. See how busy and needed I am? I even have a PAGER the size of a small typewriter!

I did enjoy the experience of being able to hack together a web site. I loved learning new things, and there was always something new to learn in the field of technology.

I ended up quitting the job and starting my own business.  But I was still finding that something was wrong, something was lacking.

I started my manifestation work. With my own business, I could play more with income levels. I decided to set a goal for $10,000 a month. Within 6 months, I had a client ask me to work on-site. I told him I didn’t want to commute. He said, “Name your price.” I said, “Ten thousand a month.” He didn’t flinch and hired me for a 6 month contract. I had other clients, too, but had to work on their projects after hours. So, in actuality, I was making more than $10k a month.

I decided I wanted an Audi. The first time I ever saw an Audi A4, I thought, “ooh, I like that car.” I set a goal. When I have $40,000 in the bank, I will buy myself an Audi. Within a couple of months, I had the Audi in the garage.

It was funny. When I went to pick up the Audi, I brought a special CD to put in the stereo… a way for me to say thank you to the universe for delivering on my manifestation. We do all the paperwork, I go out to the car, and turn on the ignition. I was happy and excited! I did it! I made an Audi!!

As the car starts, the radio is already on. Before I can do my little gratitude ritual, the radio starts blaring. It’s playing Low Rider. I bust out laughing. Of all songs… how funny is that? OK, so I guess I am not supposed to be all reverent and thankful, eh? It’s time to play!

(There is a lesson in that… we’ll do that tomorrow!)

The manifestations worked.

But still, even though I could create all of this, something was missing. My authentic self was not being expressed. I wonder, in perfect 20/20 hindsight, how much more meaningful my experience could have been if I had learned how to find and express my true self honestly.

I realized, just because I can push pixels for a living doesn’t mean I should.

Authenticity. Am I really doing the job I came here to planet Earth to do? Who am I underneath it all?

It’s fairly apparent that I am still not fully living an authentic life. And for me to live an authentic life, I need to be more honest about who I am. I need to take a risk. I need to dive underneath the fear.

If you’re scared, you’re doing it right.

When you are doing what you came here to do, when you are speaking your heart, and when you are putting yourself (and your products and services) out there to be judged and ridiculed, you create power.

You would think that after being in speech, judged for speaking in front of an audience repeatedly every weekend, I would be okay with criticism. But I don’t know that any of us really are.

We all want to be loved. We want to hear GOOD things. We want to avoid BAD things. It is human nature.

There will always be judges. Ridicule. People lying about who you are and what you’re doing with words designed to rip you apart and hurt you.

An authentic person doesn’t care. Someone who knows their own truth can withstand any and all criticism. They know — authentically — who they are, what they want, and what they are here to do. An authentic person can speak their truth, ask for what they want, and their manifestations are in alignment with who they really are. The critics disappear and become powerless in the face of your manifestation.

Do you see now why getting the media and marketers out of your head is so important? You are not necessarily trying to create those outward manifestations of wealth. You are trying to create something true to who you are, what you really want. You are trying to create something with meaningful authenticity. But the only way to do that is to become meaningfully authentic yourself.

Today’s Exercises

Are you living an authentic life? Are you completely and totally honest with yourself and others? If not, what are you withholding? What are you afraid to speak about? What do you ignore because the truth is too hard to speak?

What does your life look like if you spoke out honestly?

Here’s a tough one, but it’s important.  I’ll explain more tomorrow. (Tomorrow’s entry will explain in detail how to leverage your authentic self in order to manifest what you really want. According to Mark, tomorrow’s entry is the key to manifestation, and it is the one thing that most manifestation exercises miss.)

Here it is: what is it about yourself that you haven’t fully accepted? Yesterday, you discovered the good, all of the reasons you deserve love. What about the bad? What about you would you rather not talk about or expose? What is less than perfect?

Here are some of mine. I worry too much. I am really good at knowing a lot of things, and not so good at putting those things into practice.

Be honest with yourself about who you really are. Be honest with others. Expose that person, no matter how scary it is.

Explore your dark side and start to be okay with it. Perhaps you’ll learn it’s not so dark after all.

No, I really love you.

Administrative note: I know we’re diving into some pretty heavy stuff to start this experiment… hang tight, though. It will make the playful exercises even more fun after we lighten the load! 🙂

Do you love yourself? I mean, really love yourself?

I’m not talking about the psychopathic narcissistic love that some people express that give self love a bad name. Even that self love is a mask covering deeper pain.

I’m talking about really loving yourself. Can you honestly and truly say that you love who you are?

Even deeper, do you know who you really are? Can you honestly and truthfully look at yourself and really see who you are?

Think about someone else you love. Parents? Time to put those kiddos to good use!! You know the feeling, when you look at your sleeping child and you are so overcome with adoration you break down in tears. That is love.

I cannot honestly say I love myself enough. I am the person who puts everyone else’s needs above my own, and I end up suffering in the process. And yet here I am, telling you to love yourself. This may have been the hardest piece to write for me.

I do know that when I do the exercises here, it opens up a new appreciation of who I am. And my wish for you is that you find your own self love, your own deservingness, and your own childlike irrational exuberance and express it to the world.

Love can be a word that is difficult for people. Is it for you? Swap that out and try appreciation. Try saying “I am proud of myself.”

1. List your strengths. Try to get at least 20 things about yourself that you really love. Then ask if there are things you really appreciate about yourself.

2. You deserve love. You are a divine Child of God. You deserve love. Does that resonate for you? Can you feel it in your heart? If not, list the reasons why you deserve love. It is truth. If your ancestors could speak to you, they would tell you that you are the product of the love of thousands of your ancestors. What do you do that makes generations of your ancestors proud of you, and proud of who you are?

3. Give yourself 5 minutes to appreciate yourself. After your morning shower and primping (and if you don’t shower and primp, do it just for today), look at yourself in the mirror and say, “I love you [your name]. I am proud of you because ____________.” If things pop up in your mind that are critical at this time, keep going, keep listing the honest reasons you are proud of yourself. It can even be something like, “Even though I have been going through a ton of challenges, I still find a way to laugh and smile and not get bogged down in the fear.”

4. Write a love letter. To yourself. You’ve written love letters, haven’t you? Sure, even if it wasn’t since high school. You know what they sound like, you know what to say, and you know what you were trying to evoke emotionally in the object of your affection. It doesn’t have to be long, but it has to be written. After it’s written, save it and re-read it every few days. If you’re really brave, go to FutureMe.org and schedule it to be emailed to you in the future.

You deserve love. Even if those words don’t resonate, you still deserve it. If we are all equal in the eyes of God, how can a little child deserve more love than the parent who cares for that child? The love, respect, appreciation, and adoration that you feel towards others would serve them better if you can focus it on yourself for even a fraction of the time you give to others.

This passage from Mark Nepo’s book The Book of Awakening speaks to this. I find this passage so exquisite.

In loving ourselves, we love the world. For just as fire, rock, and water are all made up of molecules, everything, including you and me, is connected by a small piece of the beginning.

Yet how do we love ourselves? It is as difficult at times as seeing the back of your head. It can be as elusive as it is necessary. I have tried and tripped many times. And I can only say that loving yourself is like feeding a clear bird that no one else can see. You must be still and offer your palmful of secrets like delicate seed. As she eats your secrets, no longer secret, she glows and you lighten, and her voice, which only you can hear, is your voice bereft of plans. And the light through her body will bathe you till you wonder why the gems in your palm were ever fisted. Others will think you crazed to wait on something no one sees. But the clear bird only wants to feed and fly and sing. She only wants light in her belly. And once in a great while, if someone loves you enough, they might see her rise from the nest beneath your fear.

In this way, I’ve learned that loving yourself requires a courage unlike any other. It requires us to believe in and stay loyal to something no one else can see that keeps us in this world — our own self-worth.

All of the great moments of conception — the birth of mountains, of trees, of fish, of prophets, and the truth of relationships that last — all begin where no one can see, and it is our job not to extinguish what is so beautifully begun. For once full of light, everything is safely on its way — not pain-free, but unencumbered — and the air beneath your wings is the same air that trills in my throat, and the empty benches in snow are as much a part of us as the empty figures who slouch on them in spring.

When we believe in what no one else can see, we find we are each other. And all moments of living, no matter how difficult, come back into some central point where self and world are one, where light pours in and out at once. And once there, I realize — make real before me — that this moment, whatever it might be, is a fine moment to live and a fine moment to die.

I’ll leave you with that. Find your clear bird that no one else can see, and feed it your jewels.

I’m sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you. I love you.

If you’ve followed Mark’s work for very long, then you’re probably quite familiar with ho’oponopono. If not, here’s a primer about the ancient Hawaiian healing method.

Some people advocate using ho’oponopono to get massive amounts of wealth. It’s original intent was to help people heal relationships. Mark advocates using it to heal the most important relationship of your existence: the relationship with your higher self.

I was recently re-reading Gary Zukav’s book, The Seat of the Soul. I haven’t looked at it for at least 15 years, maybe longer. In the book, he talks about how your personality (who you are right now, the part of yourself that you call “myself”) can become misaligned with your soul. He writes (emphasis mine):

The personality sometimes appears as a force running rampant in the world with no attachment to the energy of its soul. This situation can be the origin of what we call an evil human being, and it can be the origin of a schizophrenic human being. It is the result of the personality being unable to find its reference point, or connection, to its mothership, which is its soul. The conflicts of a human’s life are directly proportional to the distance at which an energy of personality exists separately from the soul, and therefore, as we shall see, in an irresponsible position of creation. When a personality is in full balance, you cannot see where it ends and the soul begins. That is a whole human being.

Our goal is to bring you to that wholeness, to expand the awareness of who you are.

We all feel conflict with someone or something in our lives at certain times. Someone could be a spouse, a neighbor, a relative. Something can be your weight, your bank account, your investment account, or your car. If you are not feeling wealthy, blessed, and abundant in your life, you are necessarily feeling conflict with your ideal self.

And if you’re not feeling conflict with external elements in your life, then by your very nature, you are feeling conflict within yourself. The key is to accept that conflict is a necessary part of your existence, and move through it gracefully.

“No matter what path we choose to honor, there will be conflict to negotiate. If we choose to avoid conflict with others, we will eventually breed a poisonous conflict within ourselves. Likewise, if we manage to attend to our inner lives, who we are will – sooner or later – create some discord with those who would rather have us be doing something else.” – Mark Nepo, The Book of Awakening

Conflict can arise as blame. It can arise as “if only” thinking. It can arise as feeling powerless, overwhelmed, anxious, sleepless, or not good enough. It can also arise as avoidant behavior.

Conflict is a part of existence as a human being. You are not to avoid conflict. Instead, you accept the conflict necessary in your life and move through it with grace.

Ho’oponopono clears that conflict — with others and within yourself — so that Spirit can more naturally flow into your life. It clears the data away, weeds the garden, wipes the white board clear. It gets you to the “Zero State” that Dr. Hew Len talks about so that healing can take place.

Imagine this. There are two magnets. You are one, and someone with whom you have conflict is the other. The magnetic charge is the conflict. You are both held in opposition, unable to move, unable to direct your energy anywhere else. You are stuck, locked in.

That charge can be removed using ho’oponopono. Unlike a magnet, you have the ability to let go. You have the ability to redirect your energy. You have the ability to forgive. You are more than a magnet.

Today, turn your attention to the conflict that prevents you from experiencing wealth. You don’t have to know the underlying causes (though working with someone like Mark who can help you with those causes can create deep breakthroughs rapidly).

You simply need to focus on the situation and KNOW within you that this conflict is NOT your true nature when you are in touch with who you really are. Pain from conflict is not Spirit’s wish for you. This conflict is the result of data within you, data that you are holding on to. Take responsibility for creating the data, for holding it within you and separating you from Spirit.

By asking forgiveness for holding something that separates you from Spirit, you invite grace into your experience. From grace and true humility, you surrender to the love that is your birthright. Once you surrender to that love, miracles begin to take place.

You know whatever you’re experiencing is just data. Know that it is temporary and not your true nature. Ask forgiveness. Approach your true birthright with gratitude. And allow yourself to feel the love.

I am sorry.
Please forgive me.
Thank you.
I love you.

You are Divine. Peace, love, wealth, health, and abundance are your birthright.

Anything else is just data. All of those beliefs about wealth that you explored yesterday are just data. And, actually, the beliefs about what you think wealth might feel like are data, too.

What if wealth is something completely different?

Real wealth comes from connecting with who you really are. Clear the data, and you will experience true wealth.

Real Wealth and Real Magic Comes from Forgiveness

Forgiving yourself is just as important as forgiving others. Today, you will do both.

Is it possible for you to see another person without their data? It is very easy for me to do with my children, and it is much more difficult for me to do with adults. I have higher standards for adults, expecting much better behavior from them. My children, however, I can forgive much more easily. Yes, even when Claire has decided that every stuffed animal horse that we own needs oats, and I am vacuuming oats for three days. She’s three. I am much less forgiving of Mark when he dumps oats on the family room floor! 🙂

Forgiving Others is a Gift to Yourself

Your task for today is to forgive the most egregious individual you have ever encountered. Yes, HIM. And HER too. Oy, I can feel your frustration creeping up. How could they?

Can you see that really obnoxious 😉 person as a small child who just doesn’t know any better? Can you clean up his or her “oats” and know that you will be just fine?

Of course, I am all about healthy boundaries. Just as you forgive them, it doesn’t mean you have to accept their behavior. Perhaps you can give them a time-out of sorts in your life experience, providing you (and them!) some distance so that you can come back together and heal…. or go your separate ways.

Imagine that the conflict between you and your infamous friend is an actual force between you. You and this person are magnets, stuck together by this force of conflict. Give the conflict a color… and then imagine that color as energy swirling between you two magnets. Say in your mind, “I forgive you. I love you. I’m sorry. Please forgive me.” Every time you say this, imagine that the color begins to dissipate. It dissipates more and more… until there is no more color, there is no more energy. The two magnets exist no more, it is two people with no draw between them. You are free.

If you have multiple people with whom you have conflicts, please do this with them.

Is there someone from your past with whom you feel you might have unresolved conflict? Perhaps you and a family member or a a former lover parted ways in anger. You walked away saying, “enough of that,” yet you didn’t dissipate whatever is within you that was a magnetic draw for that experience. Try the visualization and forgiveness with them, and see how it changes your life experience now.

You may need to do this meditation multiple times over multiple days. The more you can let go of anger, frustration, fear, and sadness as a result of conflict with others, the clearer you can be. The more you can say “I forgive you. I am sorry. I love you,” and really feel it, the freer you will be.

Here’s the thing… you can do ho’oponopono all you want and say those statements without every feeling them, but there are no easy buttons. If you really want to break free to the next level of experiencing wealth in your life, you must feel forgiveness and love as your truth. Anything else is faking it, and we’re about becoming authentic in our creations! Authentic forgiveness is a miracle maker.

Even more importantly, can you forgive yourself?

Do you have debt? I have had a theory (based on my own past experiences) that debt is related to guilt. I experienced it in my 20’s, and I’ve seen others experience crushing debt that was synonymous to feelings of guilt within themselves.

I bought a house about 10 years ago, and the couple I bought from had lost the house in foreclosure. They were a financial mess, and they hadn’t been able to get all of their stuff out of the house prior to closing. In a drawer, I found a letter from the husband to the wife. OK, nosy me, I read it. It was a letter asking for forgiveness. He said repeatedly, “I am so in debt to you.”

It was almost too eerie… and it was a sign to me, too. Let go of the guilt; it creates debts both real and psychic.

Are you feeling guilty about something from your past? Uh oh, what did you do?! 😉

Actually, guilt is no joking matter. It can paralyze you, destroy your sense of self worth, and keep you from attaining even basic necessities in life. Debt is a prison, and it is slavery, and if you manifest even a small bit of debt, you are manifesting a physical representation of your unworthiness.

If you are feeling debt or guilt, you are creating a story that isn’t necessarily true. It may be true, if you want it to be true, but it happened in the past. Carrying it forward does not serve you, it only hurts you. And feeling guilt doesn’t help the person you think you wronged. Those feelings are only alive today because of your belief in them, your replaying them, and the emotions you feel within yourself.

Holding yourself in a prison of guilt serves absolutely no one. You limit your ability to give, to love, and to be fully present in your life by holding on to something from the past.

Today, if you are feeling guilt, or debt, you must forgive yourself. Here are some things to help.

Do the Advanced Inner Child Meditation. (this is free on YouTube, and you can do it now, and you can share it with others)

You have nothing to feel guilty about. All is forgiven. You are free.

What’s in a word?

You probably chose to participate in The Wealth Diet because you want to experience more wealth in your life. You want to feel more carefree, more at ease in the world, more freedom to travel, do what you want, or say “take this job and shove it!” You want to answer to no one, you want to live debt free, you want the ability to buy a nice home in a great neighborhood, or perhaps you want to take care of family.

Wealth means something to you. You have a preconceived idea of what wealth is, how the wealthy live, and why it currently isn’t in your life at the levels you hope for.

That definition of wealth in your head is KEY to what The Wealth Diet is to you.

When Mark was creating the 4th Subliminal Manifestation DVD, Attracting Wealth, I watched the DVD as a part of my job… helping him to proof the product and make sure everything was okay. Of course, I watched the DVD and had an experience as many of you did.

What shifted in me was not really about wealth… it was about success. And “success” had meaning to me. That meaning was drilled into my head at a young age.

Both of my parents had their own businesses and worked every single day. I knew there was an expectation of me, an expectation that I should be successful. But I didn’t realize that I was killing myself with work because of that definition, and I wasn’t really making more money for that lifestyle of working 80 hours a week. In my life, success was much more important than wealth. And appearing successful was more important than being happy.

I changed my beliefs about success by choosing to change that definition in my head. I instantly began to experience a more carefree lifestyle. My income jumped exponentially.

Start to investigate what the word “wealth” means to you. Here are some synonyms. What do they mean to you?

Abundance. Affluence. Fortune. Luxury. Opulence. Plenitude. Plenty. Prosperity. Riches, richness. Security. Worth. And of course, success.

Do any of those words evoke feelings for you? Those feelings will lead you to either more wealth or towards what is blocking you.

You can visualize all you want. But if you don’t learn to navigate your feelings, you won’t learn to navigate your manifestations. It’s about what you think is true, your beliefs, and what you feel about them. Intensity of feeling is more important than whether or not the feeling is good or bad.

Could any of those words mean something else? Could wealth mean peace of mind? Are you really just looking for more free time? Are you looking for fame or fortune? Can you have one without the other?

What does the experience of wealth feel like to you?

Here’s a big one: do you think that you need to be successful to have wealth? Do you think you need to work hard to be successful?

That “work hard” and “hard work” business also has a lot of nuance to it. Steve Jobs commented that you better love your work, because that love will sustain you when the job seems impossible.

Have you had that feeling when hard work felt invigorating to you? Have you also had feelings where hard work depleted your energy completely? What was different?

I am not averse to work… and I don’t think you should be either. But I think if you’re going to work hard, it might as well feel invigorating, inspiring and exciting to you! It might as well be worth it!

As a mom, well…. you other parents know. It can be depleting and invigorating in the same few minutes… but it is always worth it.

Working Hard Doesn’t Matter

If working hard meant wealth, then the Hilton sisters would be in coal mines. Wealth can be experienced without work. There is no direct correlation.

So how does wealth come about? Do you have to deserve it? Do you have to be a good person? Do you have to have good karma? Do you have to own it to be wealthy?

Wealth can be something different

When we moved to Mount Shasta from Austin, Texas, we unwittingly ended up in a 1.3 million dollar house in a glorious neighborhood. The home is exquisite, with exotic hardwood floors, stunning cathedral ceilings, and a park-like backyard. We didn’t try to create this house, but it ended up in our experience. It has been a wealthy experience, but I will tell you that the WEALTH of what we have experienced is deeper than the physical home.

The experience in Mount Shasta has taught me something about wealth. Yes, having no money sucks. But wealth doesn’t have to come through money. The wealth of this experience has been more about connections to God, neighbors, nature, and two crazy golden retrievers named Alex and Riley. Riley is our neighbor’s dog. A few months after we moved here, Riley started hanging out with us and walking with me. I was in the meadow near our house one day and I realized that everything that was giving me such immense joy in that experience wasn’t even mine.

The meadow belongs to a farmer. The dog belongs to someone else. The house, also not mine long-term. Even my car, which I “own” is depreciating. The beauty of Mount Shasta… ha, yeah, we can’t own that either. But the immense wealth I was experiencing in the now of that experience gave me more than anything money could buy.

The gratitude I felt in that moment in the meadow for All That Is expressing itself to me… I was the richest woman in the world. And I owned none of it.

I’ve written before about the abundance of water that comes out of the headwaters of the Sacramento River in the Mount Shasta City Park. It gushes, gallons of pure fresh water every second bursting forth at 32 degrees. People line up to fill water bottles… it’s the sweetest, freshest water that I’ve ever tasted.

I swear there is an energy to the water… I feel lighter in my body after I drink it. It is like pure ambrosia. What price do I put on that? Yet it is free. And no one owns it.

Abundance is our natural state. Wealth is our natural state. If we aren’t experiencing it, we aren’t opening to it. Your wealth already exists. It is staring at you waiting for you to notice it.

There is something… right now in your life… you might not see it just yet, but it is there. There is something that gives you wealth in a priceless way. It is something you cannot own, but it is something that gives to you, it is something that gives you amazing feelings of joy.

Perhaps it seems that wealth… money, abundance, riches, a carefree lifestyle… it’s sitting WAY over there. Or maybe the level you prefer to be experiencing is just out of reach. Perhaps you feel like you’re stuck in a place of the same income level no matter what you d do and you can’t break through to the next level.

Maybe you don’t know exactly what steps to take. Maybe you see some possible steps, maybe they’re contradictory. You know it’s there, (and if you don’t, that’s step one. KNOWING it’s there.) but you don’t know how to get there. Or maybe you’re halfway down a path and you what to make the journey go faster. Maybe you really want fame and that’s not as important as the fortune.

Everyone is different. Success, wealth, and fortune is different for each person.

What is similar…

  • It exists. Your dream manifested already exists. There is no future, no past, just the ever-present NOW. And it exists in the now.
  • You are already on your way to experiencing it.
  • You receive messages EVERY SINGLE DAY about how to get there, even if you don’t recognize it as such. (We’ll help you soon on how to recognize those.)
  • You will be forced to do what is necessary to experience this wealth, even if you have to manifest something awful to provide the contrast necessary to shoot out that rocket of desire for something better.

Today’s Exercise: What is Wealth to you?

You can do this as a comment below if you feel your work will help another person, or if you feel that you need help discovering. But your exercise today is to define what wealth is to you. BE HONEST with yourself. What do you need to do to feel wealthy? What do you need to be or do in order to be wealthy? What things need to happen in order for you to be wealthy? Once you are wealthy, what does your life look like? What possessions do you need to be wealthy? What FEELINGS do you FEEL when you are wealthy?

Also, watch Mark’s subliminal video – free – right here. See what feelings, beliefs, or emotions come up for you.

Once you explore what wealth is to you, grab the totem you selected from Day One. Drop your energy into your body and feel whatever sensations are there. Note those. Are you feeling anything? Fear? Trepidation? Peacefulness?

Hold it in your hand and say, “I am joyfully and exuberantly enjoying the process of effortlessly flowing into my wealth. It exists for me right now. My bank accounts are overflowing, I have more money than I will ever need, and I deserve every penny of it.”

How does it feel to say that? Do you really believe it exists for you now, or do you feel like you are kidding yourself? Make a note of how you feel, what thoughts come up.

Being honest with yourself about your current beliefs and feelings will lead you to growing beyond them!

We’ll do this exercise again throughout this process. Keep notes! You will be amazed at how much more expansive this will feel in just a few days.

Thank you for doing this, for exploring who you are now.

And remember, who you are now really is good enough, even if you see beliefs or feelings come up that might be unacceptable to the “think positive” crowd. The more you resist the “negative” thoughts, the more they persist and become problematic! You must accept them, listen to them, and learn from them.

This is not a journey of beating yourself up because you’re not good enough. You’ve always been more than good enough! This is a journey of embracing exactly who you are now, so you can embrace an expanded sense of yourself in the future.

Media Detox

Turn off the TV. Turn off the radio. Put down the magazine, the newspaper.

Yes, even turn off the music. Just for today, eliminate the noise, distraction, and advertising in your world. Eliminate the messages outside of yourself. Turn off the internet. Turn off your telephone as much as you can.

For some people, this feels like an impossible task. But we’re on The Wealth Diet together, and that means we need to cleanse our senses of the unnatural amount of overt and covert subliminal messages that we are bombarded with on a daily basis through the media.

What are these subliminal messages telling us? Well, if you ever took a sales, persuasion, or marketing class, you might remember that the first step in persuading an audience to action is to create a need, an urgency, or a problem.

They must not realize that you have all you need within you! There is no time or space, and thus no urgency! And you have no problems, only opportunities!

To the advertiser and marketer, they know the first step in getting you to part with your wealth (and walk home with their product) is to create a feeling of need in you. They hypnotize you into a trance state that tells you how amazing and powerful and beautiful you are… if only you will let go of a few (thousand) dollars.

Some of these needs are real. Some of them are not. And some of them are somewhere in between.

But we’re going to detox from these messages. We’re going to eliminate the message of what THEY think you need (i.e., their product). And instead, we’re going to start tuning into a part of yourself that knows far more about what you need and want than you have ever realized.

You cannot buy wealth. Sure, there are products that can help you on your journey if you make a conscious decision to include it in a program of developing wealth. But there are no products that will ever make you wealthy from buying them.

There are no products that will make you beautiful, thinner, smarter, or sexier. What you want cannot be found outside of yourself.

You can find hints of what you want in your external world. But what you really want, the key to your success, happiness, and wealth, is within you.

One of Suze Orman’s mantras has been “people first, money second, things last.” I would also put most food items in modern world into the “things” category along with cigarettes, alcohol, and yes, (God help me) even my beloved coffee.

Yes, even I have “my one thing” that is my vice and my friend. I don’t drink, smoke, take drugs or eat a lot of crappy food. But don’t mess with my coffee or my chocolate!

But I know it has a place. And it’s third. If I am ever in a place where I need to choose between a person in my life and coffee, coffee would go out the door. When I was pregnant with Max and Claire, I gave it up.

But back to our plan this week… no media. Whether you believe you are immune to it or not, covert subliminal or even completely overt persuasive pleas have an effect on you.

Subliminals Affect You on a Very Deep Level

Mark did a presentation at a seminar in Las Vegas about subliminal messages in advertising. He showed examples of how these subliminal messages seek to tap into a primal part of our brain, a part that creates an immense dissonance. It makes us do things we might not naturally do.

I watched Mark’s entire presentation, and consciously I was unaware of what the subliminal messages might be doing. I am pretty confident in understanding my psyche, my patterns, and my beliefs. I didn’t think these subliminal attempts could possibly have an effect on me just by looking at them with Mark as a part of his presentation preparations. I thought that perhaps since I could see them, analyze them, and knew they were there, they wouldn’t effect me. I thought that because I was aware of their intent, I could somehow rise above them.

Ha. It didn’t exactly work out that way. I ended up having WILD and rather scary dreams that night. Mark explained that it was my unconscious trying to make sense of the subliminals it was exposed to.

Good marketers are creating needs within you, whether you know it or not. You might think that you can rise above it, but you probably can’t. You might think that they can’t manipulate you, but they probably will at some level. How do those needs manifest? Well, other than wild and scary dreams, they manifest in feelings of not being good enough without their product. Or perhaps you  might have unconscious urges that encourage you to know your power, but that you are powerless without their product or service.

I can guarantee you that they do not have your interests at heart.

Are those wealthy thought and beliefs? Do those painful needs that require a soothing resolution (of course, a resolution that a marketer would be thrilled to help you with) speak of a happy, wealthy, and peaceful life?

They don’t.

Even if you don’t buy everything that is marketed to you, your unconscious mind buys into everything it is told. Even if you think you’re above it, or you’re immune, or you somehow can rise above it, those messages of lack, less than, not good enough, unworthiness, and non-deservingness without the marketer’s product or service, get into your unconscious mind. They support unproductive beliefs and patterns, and they create dissonance — or conflict — with any productive beliefs and patterns.

If we do buy, marketers are brilliant at making us feel like WE are the ones making the decision, that we are doing it for positive reasons, and we’re doing it for our own best interest.

Those messages are not in your best interest.

Tuning out the media, specifically advertising, helps your unconscious mind take a break from the “junk food” of marketing.

The Wealth Diet is about filling your mind with peaceful, affirming, and wealth producing messages instead of the junk food that just makes marketers wealthy.

Of course, living in the modern world, it doesn’t make sense to tune out completely. There are lots of positive messages that you can find to support your efforts in the media. But there is a wellspring of information just waiting to come forth from your inner self, your higher connection to your true life purpose, and that’s where you’re going to find the greatest wealth of all.

HAVING more money and more freedom and more experiences of joy, happiness, love and abundance in your world is a BY-PRODUCT of creating wealth from within.

You know that feeling of buyer’s remorse. You buy something and immediately wonder if you’ve made the right decision. Sometimes those buyer’s remorse feelings come in when we’re not in alignment with our higher self, soul, God, divine, etc. Sometimes those remorseful feelings come in because we are feeling fear or blocks about whether or not we deserve something.

It is critically important that you begin to move away from what others want from you and start to look within yourself so that you can find out what you — and what the larger part of who you are — wants to do.

The messages of what is next for you on your path for generating wealth is not going to come from outside of you. No one will tell you what it is. You will find it within yourself. You will find it by following intuitions, but in order to get really clear, you have to clear the contradictory messages outside of yourself.

Sometimes dealing with the quietude can be alarming to some people. You might not be used to the quiet within. That’s okay. Do the best you can to allow this space so you can hear your inner voice.

Today, get comfortable with turning off media. Walk in nature. Sit quietly. Write. And grab your totem and reaffirm your intention that this practice will bring you closer to realizing — making real — your wealth that lies waiting for you.

The point of power is YOU. The point of power is YOU ALONE. You are the manifester of your experience.

So, for today, turn off the media!

Try to do so for as long as you can during this experiment. Of course, if something major happens, check in for a bit, but limit your media consumption. I guarantee you, the news will wait. And you will learn far less exploring what they say than you will by exploring what your inner guidance says.

Mark and I compiled this information about how subliminals work. Feel free to check it out, but not today! Today, you are to tune it all out!

Now is the Time: How The Wealth Diet Began

Nearly 4 years ago, Mark did a seminar in Austin with Joe Vitale. It was supposed to be on our deck in Dripping Springs, a rather intimate but expansive venue. But when Joe said, “I want a piece of this,” it ended up being at The Driskill, the fanciest venue in Austin, Texas.

It was much larger than we had hoped, it was way more expensive than we had hoped, and it wasn’t nearly as magical as we had hoped. Because Joe spent most of his time in his room drinking and smoking cigars with his pal rather than interacting with attendees, I imagine the event wasn’t as he hoped either.

Don’t get me wrong. It was a great event at which I met some amazing people. But it wasn’t what Mark had originally envisioned. Not at all.

One of the speakers from Attract Wealth Seminar went to lunch with Mark on his way out of town. They were talking about health and diet over breakfast at Kerbey Lane. After coming off of the experience of the Attract Wealth Seminar, they wondered how health and diet related to wealth. They were the ones who came up with the idea of The Wealth Diet name. Mark registered the domain, and it’s been sitting in his account for 4 years.

We never did anything with The Wealth Diet during that timeframe. I think we were completely burned out and disillusioned after our experiences in Texas. We had ideas, but nothing felt authentic to us.

You see, I actually met Mark at a Joe event called Beyond Manifestation. I had never read Joe’s books and only knew him from The Secret. I went following an inspiration (dreams actually). I did learn about ho’oponopono from that event, and I met Mark. 🙂 But I was hoping to learn about beyond manifestation, what’s more than that.

I was already a successful manifester having studied reality creation since I was a teenager. I had already created cars, houses, jobs, income levels, you name it. It was almost… too easy. But there was a missing piece I was hoping to discover. Once I had the Audi that I chose to create and the income level I had chosen, it did not necessarily give me what I was looking for. There was something very important missing. (I’ll explain what in a few days, and how I finally did get it.)

After our experiences in Texas, anything having to do with manifesting wealth was… well, tainted. This is not a direct shot at Joe. I wish him well. He did not act with integrity, in situations too numerous to explain here, and leaving was definitely the right thing to do. Joe is a part of a group of people who are selling multi-thousand dollar coaching programs to get you wealthy. They’re selling multi-hundred dollar audio programs to help you find wealth. Meanwhile, they’re getting wealthy and you have their content, most of which I find over-complicates a simple process. Gah. No thanks. I don’t want to be part of the dripping with scam movement.

I know how to do this. I have done it, and so has Mark. I know there is truth behind The Secret and the principles of reality creation. I have kept quiet about my experiences and knowledge. Of course there have been threats, too, and I would rather not have that conflict in my life.

Yet the lack of speaking has created a different kind of conflict within.

Last summer, I got inspired. It was time. Actually, I started receiving messages about what needed to be done, so I started writing a book entitled The Wealth Diet. Because I do most of Mark’s writing, it was to be his book with his name on it, with me as a ghostwriter. But it became apparent that I was supposed to speak about this firsthand.

Mark will definitely be a part of the process. I’ve learned a lot from him, but the messages are directing me in an overpowering way. I have to do this.

I wrote most of the book last summer. It was a magical experience. It felt like my dream world, my conscious life, and my external world were conspiring to write the book. Everything synched up. Synchronistic events happened. It felt like the book was writing itself. I was just following. I still feel that way.

Because most of my work experience has been as a web developer, I thought, why not do this as a web site? A 30 day experiment of sorts? I had a lot of ideas come up about doing this “book” differently. More interactive, using the power of the web. WordPress is such a powerful platform, I couldn’t resist.

Life got busy, and The Wealth Diet took the back burner. And then, little by little, I started getting messages that NOW IS THE TIME. The synchronistic events began happening again.

Then they became just… too coincidental to ignore.

But I am too busy!!! There is so much going on right now… my boulder that I wrote about on Mark’s blog. My boulder is an IRS audit for 2008: the same year as that way-too-expensive Attract Wealth Seminar. We had a LOT of money come in thanks to that event. But we also had a boatload of cash go out, thanks to that event.

And, interestingly, during my prep work for the IRS audit, I started getting registrations on The Wealth Diet. Yes, this web site. Registrations that I hadn’t solicited. I never announced the experiment. I wasn’t ready! I had too much to do!

But now is the time. And something tells me that the busy-ness of my current life and the IRS audit are a part of the experience.

I asked the mystery registrants where they had heard of The Wealth Diet. “Someone emailed me about it.” I still have no idea who. But things happen.

Something larger than us wants us all to do this experiment. Together. There is also power in numbers, you see. And as I intend for this experiment to be successful for all of you, as you intend that for your friends reading this with you, we all share that intention for a miracle to happen. There is power in numbers.

The point of all of this discussion about how The Wealth Diet came to be is to illustrate how important it is to give your attention to awareness of something larger than yourself. Well, something larger than who you consider yourself to be. You are larger than you think you are. Expanding your awareness and attention in a creative expression creates wealth, opportunities, and growth.

That larger part of Who You Are… some call it Source, God, the Divine, the Universe. Whatever you want to call it so that you are comfortable. I like to think of it as All That Is. That force is “All That Is,” and calling it that feels like an expansion of knowledge of my connection — and my inclusion within — with All That Is.

You are a part of God. You are a part of All That Is. And it is time, now is the time, for you to think of yourself as more than who you have been taught that you are. That’s important. That’s really the crux of this whole exercise.

You are more than you think you are. Even if you think you’ve found a deeper part of yourself? You’re still more than that. Think. Even. Bigger.

This is where the magic happens. When you know that you are more in control of your reality, you can more easily let go of the fears that hold you back, and you can more easily step into the experience of your wealth.

Most of you know about ho’oponopono. It’s the ancient Hawaiian philosophy of clearing what is in you so that you can experience more of the Divine. It’s clearing the beliefs, the blocks, the patterns, and the thoughts that hold you in a place of fear, lack, pain, or anxiety. It is “making right” the relationship between you and the Divine, between you and God, connecting you to the higher parts of yourself where magic happens.

It’s all just been waiting for you to connect to it. All of your wealth, the love you seek, the “rockets of desire” that you have sent out as requests to the Universe. It already exists in the ever-present now. The past doesn’t matter. Your patterns don’t matter. Your suffering doesn’t matter. And your beliefs don’t matter. And the future? It doesn’t matter either. It doesn’t exist. In the space of magic and miracles, your wealth exists. It is waiting in a new framework of reality just ready for you to make it manifest.

So. That’s how The Wealth Diet came to be. And here, on day one, we’re getting ready to move beyond the beliefs that structure your current ever-present now, and begin to create something different, something magical, something amazing.

Today, your duty is to know and acknowledge this: know that joyful, loving abundance is your reward for awakening to who you really are, and who you really are is amazing, wonderful, and irrationally, exuberantly joyful expression of the Universe. Affirm this. Say it out loud.

Choose a Totem

Choose a small totem for yourself today. If you saw the movie Inception, you remember that the totem was the reminder of where Leo’s character was, in a dream or reality. My neighbor collects heart-shaped rocks. I keep a small coin Mark gave me when we first met as a totem of my belief in our magical life experience and my mission.

For this, I chose a rock my son picked out. I hold my totem in my hand, feel the emotion of my power as the powerful manifester that I am, and affirm that I am a creation of God, that I am an irrationally exuberant expression of All That Is. I will keep this rock on my desk as a reminder throughout this experiment so I will know what I am doing here.

Why the Wealth Diet is free

Giving this program away for free, some of our best knowledge, is a cleansing of sorts. It is allowing the information to come through without being dripped on, so to speak, by the  experiences of our previous life. The information WANTS to come through. Spirit WANTS to use me and Mark to speak to you about this. Your desire for wealth… it is there for a reason. And you are here for a reason.

We want this to be clean. We want you to recognize this information for the Truth that it is. And we want you to recognize yourselves as the Amazing Being that you are. And somehow, charging $47  and putting it on Clickbank taints it. I just couldn’t go that way.

You see, some of the internet marketers selling wealth generating products, yes some selling them even to this day, have commented that people who buy their products are
“suckers.” If you believe in anything spiritual, you are a “sucker.” They manipulate with their words, using the truth of who you really are against you. They use the technology of manipulation to get you to buy and up-sell you, reinvesting the money you pay into selling others in the same process rather than investing in you, the customer. They use the truth of your powerful being, and convince you quite hypnotically that you have to PAY in order to be that amazing self.

It’s not true. You don’t. You are already there. And we will show you for free how to do this, how to open  up to who you are.

So we want you to forget those old models and approach this truth from a very clean place. Truths that resonate have always been used manipulatively to separate people from their money. Now, we hope to help you use truth to help you experience greater wealth than you ever dreamed possible.

Please note: What we experienced in Texas was very real to us. But it is also BEHIND us. You may have also experienced something similar, or something completely different. We don’t want to turn ANYTHING here into a discussion about the ethics in the field of personal development. Yes, there are issues. But what we are trying to do is create a different path. I only bring it up as an explanation for the path we’re taking, not to engage in any discussions about other people. We can’t solve the problems we see by railing against what is. We can, however, create a new path, a new way, and a new paradigm feels right to us.